From the Desk of Lady Diva
ONS & BC, no matter the difference have one rule in common, it must be understood by both participants in order for it to work properly. False promises are not necessary nor appreciated. Individuals would much rather be told upfront what the situation is than harboring hard feelings down the line for being misled into thinking it would blossom into more. (HINT, HINT BROTHERS...SISTERS WANT OPTIONS!) But for the most part ONS are only considered by one and the other is unaware. After the sex, the dates, phone calls and all other sweet preludes cease. No need to continue to maintain the front, the job is done.
Now I am not knocking ONS, if that's your choice, by all means, do you!!! But as they say, "buyers beware." You may wind up with a clingy one and if your sex game is on point, you may want to think twice. All it takes is one good hit and someone can go from sane to stalker over good sex. (Trust me, I know. LOL)
However keep in mind this one rule: DON'T EVER ASSUME IT IS MORE THAT IT IS!! Be sure everyone is on the same playing field for maximum enjoyment. I say this because there are some that assume sex = relationships. Not at all.
I know people are saying ONS and BC are so risque, so many diseases. I NEVER said go raw! That should be a given but for those that need to hear it - USE A CONDOM! SAFE SEX = GREAT SEX!
Remember there is nothing dirty about sex as long as we practice safe sex and good hygiene
So live, love, have great sex and be happy.
First and foremost, I would like to say thank you to all those who have visited Give It To Me Right!, became a follower and/or member on our Facebook group and reached out to give us your feedback. Due to the influx of compliments and encouragement, we are back with more juicy topics in the realms of sex, love and relationships.
Last week we focused on the first simple form of guilt free sex, MASTURBATION. This week we have chosen to focus on her step-sisters, One Night Stand and Booty Call. Those of you who have experienced either understand what I mean when I say they are just other forms of masturbation. Just like masturbation, we turn to One Night Stands and Booty Call to cure our need for an immediate, no strings attached orgasm.
The One Night Stand was once considered a single night theater performance. Still holding true to its meaning, it is still a single night performance between two (or more - hell the more the merrier, right?) individuals. One good sexual encounter between (almost) strangers for the sole purpose of a intimate release. There are those that look down on the One Night Stand (ONS) and may consider it pointless. (As if being able to release sexual frustration could ever be pointless.)
As with all other good things, there is always some kind of snafu. In this instance, its in the form of question. Is it possible for anyone to enter into these type of arrangements and stay committed to the No Strings Attached (NSA) rule? More so, can we have sex and not catch feelings?
My partner feels it is safer to stick with the good ole imagination. She says she has multiple ONS in her mind with the man of her dreams. She feels that its the safer way to play, no feelings and no worries. Like most, she believes no one can walk away from an ONS or Booty Call (BC) untouched. However, she is not against either. She just feels is a battle of mental strength.
I, on the other hand, have never, ever had a problem separating my emotions and walking away, head held high and fully satisfied. ONS are for those, who at times, do not desire a relationship but still crave the passion of intercourse. Yes, similar to a BC however, ONS does not have a second night encore performance whereas a BC can and most likely does.
Last week we focused on the first simple form of guilt free sex, MASTURBATION. This week we have chosen to focus on her step-sisters, One Night Stand and Booty Call. Those of you who have experienced either understand what I mean when I say they are just other forms of masturbation. Just like masturbation, we turn to One Night Stands and Booty Call to cure our need for an immediate, no strings attached orgasm.
The One Night Stand was once considered a single night theater performance. Still holding true to its meaning, it is still a single night performance between two (or more - hell the more the merrier, right?) individuals. One good sexual encounter between (almost) strangers for the sole purpose of a intimate release. There are those that look down on the One Night Stand (ONS) and may consider it pointless. (As if being able to release sexual frustration could ever be pointless.)
As with all other good things, there is always some kind of snafu. In this instance, its in the form of question. Is it possible for anyone to enter into these type of arrangements and stay committed to the No Strings Attached (NSA) rule? More so, can we have sex and not catch feelings?
My partner feels it is safer to stick with the good ole imagination. She says she has multiple ONS in her mind with the man of her dreams. She feels that its the safer way to play, no feelings and no worries. Like most, she believes no one can walk away from an ONS or Booty Call (BC) untouched. However, she is not against either. She just feels is a battle of mental strength.
I, on the other hand, have never, ever had a problem separating my emotions and walking away, head held high and fully satisfied. ONS are for those, who at times, do not desire a relationship but still crave the passion of intercourse. Yes, similar to a BC however, ONS does not have a second night encore performance whereas a BC can and most likely does.
ONS & BC, no matter the difference have one rule in common, it must be understood by both participants in order for it to work properly. False promises are not necessary nor appreciated. Individuals would much rather be told upfront what the situation is than harboring hard feelings down the line for being misled into thinking it would blossom into more.
WHAT YOU SHOULD KNOW:
ONE NIGHT STANDS ARE NOT THE SAME AS BOOTY CALLS.
ONS stands are never with the same partner. I know many that are a fan of the ONS. As long as their desires are met, they're GREAT!!! I have had both a ONS and a BC. As a matter of fact, at one time I had a serious fear of relationships and lived by the motto, "one and done." I couldn't and didn't want to deal with he day after "clinginess". You know the type that cries, "But we had sex!" when you cut them loose. Now I am not saying a sister has a Kat made of platinum, but this one brother got a taste and it was hell to shake him loose. So in fear of making the same mistake, I made a pact with a friend to be my BC. And we remained that way for 5 years. He was like a best friend. Our relationship was never complicated, we confided in each other and developed a different kind of love for one another. He was there when I needed someone to kiss, cuddle and share in foreplay.ONE NIGHT STANDS ARE NOT THE SAME AS BOOTY CALLS.
Now I am not knocking ONS, if that's your choice, by all means, do you!!! But as they say, "buyers beware." You may wind up with a clingy one and if your sex game is on point, you may want to think twice. All it takes is one good hit and someone can go from sane to stalker over good sex. (Trust me, I know. LOL)
However keep in mind this one rule: DON'T EVER ASSUME IT IS MORE THAT IT IS!! Be sure everyone is on the same playing field for maximum enjoyment. I say this because there are some that assume sex = relationships. Not at all.
I know people are saying ONS and BC are so risque, so many diseases. I NEVER said go raw! That should be a given but for those that need to hear it - USE A CONDOM! SAFE SEX = GREAT SEX!
So live, love, have great sex and be happy.
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sistha, sistha you are too much, but i TOTALLY agree with you on the differences but i personally feel a BC can turn into tragidy, but a ONS when your DONE your done!!!!! but also too that can be harmful as well because we often hear the horror stories how some young soul was killed and dismantled. BOTTOM line.....be careful no matter what your choice may be.
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ReplyDeleteI totally agree that there are some deranged individuals out there. I am not suggesting by far that ONS should be with random stranger(meet you @ 9am and boning you by noon). I am comfortable to say that you may want to go out on a date, converse and see where their head is at. I also know that there are those that have master the art of deception and can fool you on the first date, however, we must learn to trust that inner voice that let's us know when something is not RIGHT!!!
A one-night stand is prearranged and a booty call is a spur-of-the-moment lay.OOWEE
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ReplyDeleteBooty Calls can be prearranged and one-night-stands can be spur-of the moment lay. It's in the eye of the beholder, Sweetie. However, it is more common in this order.
ReplyDeleteI have known more one-night-stands to be out-of-the-blue than a booty call, nowadays. Booty calls are more a mutual agreement for NSA sex. Hence why the term "one and done" or "hit and quit" is used for ONS. In most ONS situations, one of the participants is unaware of the ONS about to happen. Even though it would work out better if both participants were in agreement.
ONS normally happen with the understanding that it will never happen again. BC are usually up for another lay.
Again, it's how you see it. This is the way I see it.
Lady Diva
Figuring that if pleasure is top priority then either one can be worth jumping into. I haven't experienced either ONS or BC so as an outsider i say let those that participate be content. I can just imagine though the gratifying amount of pleasure one can receive from a one night stand. To go into an encounter knowing only their name and possible age if asked. The ultimate of it all is knowing you really don't know the person and you don't have to worry about seeing him or her again. The thing I realize about Booty Call is that, this person can be anyone you know. Good or Bad BC has its many consequences and benefits. Individuals who involve themselves with others just to get that phone call early in the morning or whenever they want to get the added bonus of having great sex. Isn't that the point of having that phone a friend. Who is at your disposal anytime no question. Mutual agreement. No matter how wonderful it is to always have that one, who is to say feelings won't develop. More power to all.
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Thanks for the clarification of the differences, however, both are not good. We forgot the emotional side. Women claim they can turn it off, but can they really. We have a chemical in our body that offsets when we make out with someone, that makes us have a climax when they man is not, and also attachment when he is not thinking of this thereafter. Some women belive they mastered the game, to be like men, but with a draw we are still labeled as the easy lay or ho! Not them. We are also spiritual creatures, where we are becoming as one every time we have sex. When we thought we forgot this man, he comes up in our mind, that sexual experience can play as a re-run episode in our heads. It is that that easy.
ReplyDeleteCondoms, on the other hand, they bust, tear, and break. So what protection is that. It does not protect us from herpes, Genital Warts, and other unknown diseases around the private area that we cannot be protected from. There are female condoms to protect more of the outside of the vagina area, however, what women have a bag-like plastic condom hanging outside of this area.
Abstinence is my best policy right now, especially with these down-low brothers these days. I have to trust that hopefully the man that will truly love me will come by way. Dreams can still come true for those who believe.
it is what it is!! men can do it why not the ladies
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