Off the top of my Head.

From the desk of Lady Diva

Okay, I hope that everyone had a safe and happy Thanksgiving. I sure did. I cooked it up with all the trimmings. You would have thought I was born in the South. I can't wait for Christmas. Now that is my holiday!!! 'It's the most wonderful time of the year!!!' The only thing that I am going to miss is the New York hustle and bustle of holiday shopping. But to all my New Yorkers out there, please visit Times Square and take a few pics for me. I would appreciate it.

Anyway, back to business! This is going to be short. Is it wrong for a woman to love woman on woman sex? I know a young lady that enjoys woman and woman sex but is ashamed to admit it. She got so defensive when I agreed that is was erotic. She was, "Oh no, I mean me and my man be tripping on it but it don't turn me on." Please!! She know that was the best sex she ever had after she and her "man" watch a few flix or pix. I know for me and my man that is the beginning of something hot about to happen.

Now, I am not going to push the issue for men to enjoy gay porn. But ladies, if you haven't tried it, try it. I love watching and then trying some of the tricks and turns in my bedroom. Funny thing, my best friend was the first to turn me on to gay porn but I wasn't fond of the guy/guy films. Before that, I just didn't watch porn period. Then one lonely day I wanted to know what all the fuss was about around this "SQUIRTING." My man talked about it and I just knew if I was going to turn him out for good I had to learn. Well, I didn't learn how to squirt but what I did learn was that I got turn on from watching Ms. Jada Fire play with herself and squirt all over her partners. Then I started scoping out more info on the web and came across some girl/girl videos and the rest is history.

Honestly, opening up to my man about my fetish was not easy initially because I didn't want to start and insecurities but I am glad I did. Now I can openly and honestly enjoy my porn with him and BABY it's the best sex EVER!!!!!

So for all my undercover sisters that are scared to venture that side of freaky, trust me when I say nothing has felt more free than being open with your partner about your fetish. You never know what he will surprise you with. If he isn't accepting of your sexual nature, than he does not fully accept you.

As always love, happiness and GREAT SEX!!!

Lady Diva

SEXUAL FANTASIES - Let's live our dreams and satisfy our DESIRES!!

From the desk of Lady Diva...

So...How has your week been? Sorry I am a little late with this week's post but I figured an extra few days to read then re-read last week's blog on Oral Sex may be a good thing for some. I have more responses from women than men on that one. Men complain about not receiving Oral sex but when I put it out there, [men] have ABSOLUTELY nothing to say in return. Tsk, tsk! Anyway, we are moving forward; Fantasies --- Sexual fantasies. Let's satisfy our desires.

For a long time, I sought to fulfill each and every fantasy of mine as they came to mind. However I have yet to achieve my newest fantasy: go to a Swingers club. That's right friends, I want to see first hand the lifestyle that has come to light and recruits new members in groves.

One of my very first fantasies was to kiss a girl. However I was not brazen enough to go after it like I did all the others thereafter. Yet, I did live the fantasy and I liked it.

The same as most of you who are secure in your sexuality and seek to explore every new avenue, I wanted to have sex in the great outdoors. Still young and in my experimental stage, I conquered this fantasy and added it to my favorites IMMEDIATELY!

As the years progressed the thrill level of each fantasy increased and enjoyed the satisfaction of each adventurous accomplishment. But I have found myself in stand-still when it comes to chasing my latest and greatest fantasy of visiting a swingers club.

A few years ago a friend of mine asked me to visit one with him. Now as much as I love the excitement of sex in front of strangers, I was not big on watching others have sex. Therefore, I became apprehensive of actually going through with it. Yes, I admit I was not a fan of porn. Lol. Go figure.

Again to overcome this fear like all others I had to question what was holding me back. At first I felt as if it was my lack of excitement that would cause my significant other to resort to porn, I even had a brief lack of self-esteem thinking that I was not pretty or bootylicious. I got over the self esteem issue quick though because I knew I want lacking in the looks or booty departments. Leaving me to look into my bedroom performance. Now I have never had complaints but I knew there was more I could be doing to keep him from those damn videos so my last resort was to watch and learn.

Once that spark ignited inside me, it was on. I wanted to watch them with him, practice until perfect then start something new. Somehow in the mix of all this I began to desire more. Yet, I couldn't put my finger on what exactly I was looking for until I read "Erotic City" by Pynk. Her vivid descriptions of the swinger lifestyle awoke that inner freak in me. It was then I knew that I had to visit a swingers club. The thrill of watching a live porn, seeing the excitement bulge in my man's pants then finishing the job was the "umph" I needed to reach the next plateau. So we did and research and are making plans to make the most out of this new adventure.

This is not an invitation for anyone to live on the wild and dangerous side. As always keep it safe. I do urge you to fulfill those inner desires, enrich your relationship with your partner and yourself for that matter. If your fantasy is to be experimental, start simple. Some yet going for the full Monty and skip the baby steps necessary to achieve total enjoyment. You must first learn to love sex before you can love being experimental. Be confident in yourself and your sexuality. This alone will intensify each encounter.

As always live your dreams, love yourself, have sex and be happy.

Hugs & Kisses!!
Lady Diva