What I Fear The Most --- DISSATISFACTION, DISAPPOINTMENT AND DOUBT

Though I pride myself on individuality, how others perceive me and judge me does weigh heavy on my mind. Not that I would ever change who I am because of what someone thinks, but it does play apart on future decision making.

When I started blogging, it was to explore a world I am fond of ... SEX. I am intrigued to no end by sexual liberation. Those that feel free to express themselves sexually excite me. Yet, I feel that people will look at me as some kind of whore for expressing how I feel. So sad is the day and time we live in that people must shield who they really are to avoid slander and degradation. I am no nympho but I do enjoy sex and the thrill of knowing that I can truly satisfy my partner's every need. Love is not solely based on sex, I know this, but honestly without sex a relationship is going to go but so far.

With that being said, how many of us are truly into the art of satisfaction and who are we trying to satisfy the most? Besides God, how do we view our day to day activities in the eyes of those we love and hold dear. Do we take their feelings into consideration when making decisions? Whatever I do, no matter how big or small, I always think of my son, my mom and my spouse. It would tear me apart to think that either of them were dissatisfied with my actions, disappointed in who I have become or have any doubt as to my loyalty to them. For my spouse, I tend to go above and beyond because this is not someone that has any other kind of bond other than emotional, maybe physical. Is it ok to go overboard with trying to please your partner? Do you ever come to a point where your feel that no matter how much you do, they just will never be completely satisfied? When do you find the strength to let them go?

My fear for dissatisfaction, disappointment and doubt provides the gas I need to move on. I know that may sound strange but I am more into the idea of pleasing me before anyone else. Don't get me wrong, I will try to bring something to the table to increase the happiness in our relationship but remember this is a partnership and they must be willing to meet me half-way. If they are truly unhappy, it might just be a reflection of what I am really feeling and at that point there is nothing I could do to change it. However, sometimes I do believe that my fear may also cause me to flea prematurely.

My question to all of you is - Is there anyway to truly give unconditionally of yourself and still remain true to who you are? My favorite saying it, "I can only be me. I been practicing this role all my life." What do you do if you feel like someone wants to change you into someone that you do not recognize? Should your fear hold you captive or fuel you to break free?

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Danette

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ORAL SEX - DO UNTO OTHERS AS YOU WOULD HAVE THEM DO UNTO YOU!!!

From the desk of Lady Diva

Hello again my faithful friends. I see our last blog raised a lot of eyebrows as we have had plenty of responses. Both positive and negative, I appreciate them all. (Even though I believe the negative ones were just to play devil's advocate.) For all the nay-sayers I say this, you can't knock it until you try it. I understand those with concerns of disease (STD). However, if you have seen one (penis or vagina) you have seen enough to say, "Hmm this does or does not look right." Remember ONS and BC are not the reasons why STD's spread, Ignorance is.

This week we are delving into the world of Oral Sex; fellatio, cunnilingus, giving-head, going down, blow job, eating cooch. No I will not be teaching the proper techniques, LOL. I am getting into the most famous argument at hand. Why does it seem like a chore for some to reciprocate?

I mean, geesh, why does it seem like its alright for me to get down for mine but have to beg for him or her to go down for theirs? As long as your hygiene is tight and the package is pretty, what's the problem? Brothers, now you complain all the time that there are some females that will not give head but have you checked yourselves. Ladies, this includes you too. Keep it clean and trimmed. Wild bush is not attractive.

Unfotunate for some, we do live in a give to get world. Void are the days of romance and foreplay. Some of us want the excitement in the bedroom, show your true freaky side. I want to know if you (give head, eat cooch) like if its you last meal or are you the type to play around with it, complain that it makes you sick or front like you know what you doing but really don't.

We need to be upfront with our partners and ourselves. If you are down to go the whole-nine-yards then it should be a no-holds-barred when we get in the bedroom. Ladies, if you wanna keep your man, even if you don't want to admit it, you may need to learn a tongue trick or two. Remember, what we won't do someone else will. Really, what is holding you back besides the occasional sweaty testes.

Men, you are not off the hook. Just the same, you may want to learn a trick or two for your ladies. We can and will find satisfaction. Some may find it with themselves, some with another man that doesn't mind or even a woman. It is not that uncommon for a woman to find sexual healing in another woman. If you don't believe it, look around you.

Don't fool yourself into thinking your sex-game can't be replaced. Besides the toys and things we all keep hidden in the treasure chest, there is always someone around the corner waiting for their moment to slide or should I say, SLURP right in!

Just as much as we may hate the sound of Oral Sex, it is hear to stay and we have to grow to love it! Yes, love it. When you love it, Oh it shows. I believe in one good turns deserves another. When my man puts it down, I believe he deserves a reward and the sex thereafter will scream, "ENCORE, ENCORE!!!"

Now, if oral sex is not your thing by all means you are entitled to your beliefs, opinions whatever. But do not expect more than you are giving. Also, do not start something that you do not plan to keep up. False appearances, or as we say fronts, happens all the time but when it comes to sex this is a no-no! Do not empty the bag of goodies on the first day and then slack thereafter. Each day should continue to be promising of more treats to come. If you feel you have exhausted all you treats, hell pull out an old one, polish it off and put a different spin on it.

Sex, in any shape, form or fashion is and always will be the glue for any relationship. Keep your relationship tight by keeping your mind open to different techniques to keep your bedroom EXCITING!!! (Especially if you plan on keep them for the long haul! SMILE!!)

As always, I am looking forward to your questions, comments and concerns. Talk to me!

Live, Love and Laugh!!

Lady Diva

Masturbation - The Original Teenage Love Affair!

From the Desk of Lady Diva

No I am not talking about your first crush or high school sweetheart. I am talking about MASTURBATION!!!! Yes, you read it right!

We all know that before we knew how to kiss, some of us were experiencing the satisfaction of that sweet orgasm. Men, don't think the ladies don't know that you have been practicing jacking off at 11, 12, 13. Ding, ding, ding...that when the teenage love affair begins. Hell, we were rubbing the Kat too. I mean, naturally, if we can't pleasure ourselves, how can we expect you to know what to do or help YOU help US get there, for that matter.

Let me see if I can remember when I first fell in love with masturbating. Oh yes, we are in love. A friend to the end, will never let you down and always there to lend a helping hand (smile). It had to be in junior high school. All the the girls and boys were discussing which "base" they had gotten too and with whom. Poor me, I didn't know even know how to kiss, much less touch and play with a penis or myself. So on one of my nights of solitude - the nights when my brother and sister were sleep before me - I went in the bathroom for my second bath (my cover in the event someone woke up) and began to find the spot that woke a feeling in me that made me smile like the Cheshire cat. I unconsciously began to play with my nipples which excited me and then I began to feel this rhythmic pulse between my legs. When I found where the sensation was coming from, I allowed my finger to dance to its beat.

Now for all those that don't remember your first orgasm is the most scariest and powerful shit you have yet to experience. I couldn't stop my leg from shaking, chills were running up and down my spine; I wanted to scream. Just when I thought I couldn't take anymore my body began to spasm and a rush of calm filled me from head to toe.

Although it was the best thing that could have happened to me, I felt awkward and knew I couldn't share this with any of my friends. Therefore, I retreated to the pages in my journal. I never had the urge to try it again (not until I was 21). It was a great experience, I guess I just wasn't ready for what was next; Facing my sexuality. (Sorry that's another topic for another day). It was another 2 years before I allowed anyone <---(pay attention) anyone to play with Miss Kitty and another 5 before I was forced to do it for myself. Lol. However, that first orgasm set the precedent for future encounters and became an addiction there after. Like a dope fiend needing a hit, I now had the itch for more.

If you have a comment or a story to share on your "Teenage Love Affair" feel free to share it here.

Lady Diva